Teach Your Kids To Use The Power Of Their Subconscious Minds
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Kids below the age of puberty have much freer access to their subconscious minds than adults have, which has its pluses and its minuses.
If you teach them how to use the power of their subconscious minds from an early age, kids can be incredibly powerful in rewriting their inner programs “on the fly”.
What’s more, since they haven’t yet learned to defend their ego “this is just the way I am”, if you can provide some positive experiences, you have a good shot at creating an adult who is not afraid of change and personal growth!
Opportunities arise on a regular basis. One particularly dramatic one arose for us when we were on a family holiday for two weeks with unlimited day passes to three theme parks. One of our twins (aged eight) developed a habit by the third or fourth day of getting increasingly nervous while queuing for a ride, and then eventually bailing out as she reached the head of the line. In one case, the attendant even offered her $2.50 if she got on the ride, but she wouldn’t do it.
I sat her down and explained how phobias develop. I told her that her body was like a little two-year-old, and all it wanted was to stop the fear. It didn’t know the fear would stop when she went through the ride and came out the other end, because it only learns by doing - it’s too “young” to think. Each time she stopped and backed away from the ride, the fear would subside, and that pattern would grow stronger.
I told her that Big Girl Rachael needed to teach Little Girl Rachael that going through was a better way to end the fear. All that Big Girl Rachael needed to do was to take charge of the body, and put one foot in front of the other until she was actually sitting on a ride. Once the seat belt was done up, the ride would do the rest.
She sat for a long time on a barrel at the head of a queue, and eventually she stood up and stepped onto the ride.
Afterward, she told me “It’s like there’s a wise old woman inside me, and I just put her in charge.”
It took a few more run-throughs before the grip of fear was completely broken, but by the end of the next day she was running around to get back on the ride as soon as possible.
As you can imagine, an experience like this one lays down a great foundation for facing fearful situations in the future. By harnessing the power of subconscious imagery, she managed to get her subconscious working with her conscious (instead of against it) to achieve a positive outcome. In the future, whether it is a driving test, a job interview, or a difficult conversation with a partner, she will be able to create a similar visualisation of her inner “wise old woman” and put her in charge.
If you are not familiar with subconscious processes and how to work with them, I would encourage you to learn. Whether it’s NLP, self-hypnosis, guided meditation, visualisation, or “inner child” work, anything which gives you an insight into the subconscious will pay huge dividends, personally and professionally, and be a lasting treasure you can pass on to your children.
